Tuesday, February 26, 2008

Personal Responsibility - An Attitude That Can Change Your Life

How often make you hear yourself saying things like: "I can't," "If only," "I must," "There's nothing I can do," "I wish," "She annoys me," "Nobody told me," "He started it"?

How often make you allow your fortune command your reactions, rather than using your actions to control your circumstances? If you react to everything that haps to you with a sense of helplessness, then no wonderment you experience helpless. Whenever you look outside yourself for the replies to your problems, you meet a human race beyond your control, and soon your life gets to free control because no substance what techniques you try, you can change nil substantial.

Take, for example, relationships. Most human relationships are, to a certain extent, a word form of dependence. If you must interact with people who are having a bad day, then their bad twenty-four hours reflects upon your day. Whether you have got got a good day, or not depends upon whether or not everyone around you is having a good day.

Dependence is a chilling topographic point to be because you have no command over either the people, or the situations, upon which you depend.

For many people, when person around them is having a bad day, their blink of an eye reaction is to seek to control the situation. They seek to command the individual by talking "sense" into them, or they seek to repair the person's problems-an equally ineffectual choice.

When you seek to repair other people's problems, you stop up making their problems, your problems. Eventually, people get to anticipate you to leap in and hole all their problems. Don't you have got enough jobs of your own? Besides, people necessitate to repair their ain problems, or else they never larn what to make when their jobs reappear. The river wishes to direct us the same problems, until it's sure that we've learned to repair things on our own. When we seek to repair jobs for other people, we waste material all of our energy trying to repair things that we don't have got the powerfulness to fix. We may undertake the problem, but the state of affairs doesn't change. And when we neglect to repair the situation, the job maintains reappearing; until finally, we go exhausted, bitter, defeated and cynical.

So many of us endeavor to better our states of affairs by trying to command things that are beyond our control. Ultimately, we stop up frustrated. Or worse, we merely utilize what life have handed us as an alibi for doing nil to change our circumstances. We believe that the human race out there have control over everything while we just sit down incapacitated and blameless. Our birth, our upbringing and our environment have got all determined our lives; and, mediocre us, nil we can make volition alteration those things.

If you believe this way, you are not alone. Our full society is heavily scripted in this sort of mentality. But be careful when you purchase into this sort of scripting. The books that you play in your head go true for you. Remember the powerfulness of belief. The more than than out-of-control you believe your life is, the more out-of-control your life have become. By focusing on everything that is beyond your control, you never detect what you can control. Remember the powerfulness of focus.

We necessitate to retrieve that the lone thing that we command in life is our reaction to what life custody us. "Victim" is only an attitude. You can take to be a victim, or you can take to be a survivor. I cite from my brother, Donald Sager, who died in 1999 from cancer.

"...No 1 can really state you for certain why malignant neoplastic disease hits some people and not others. I have got come up to recognize it is a small like Russian roulette. Everyone have a bullet, but it just haps to be a spot indiscriminate as to when it will come up out of the chamber. In reality, we have got a whole batch of slugs going off all of the time. It's just that in most people the immune system is a great bulletproof vest. Cancer folks acquire that waistcoat ripped right off. I am one of the lucky ones. I state lucky, and I truly intend it, because I am a very different individual today than I was on that lovely twenty-four hours of diagnosing and would not desire to travel back for anything. Now don't acquire me wrong. I am searching desperately for a new waistcoat but so far the organic structure armour have been out of stock. The fact that I got the large "C" however, and the journeying I have got made as a individual both before diagnosing and after, have been down right amazing. It have made me who I am today and that, dear friends, is what I would not change for anything..." Donald William Sager, Comedy of Cancer, 1999

Some mightiness state my blood brother was a victim of cancer. I state that malignant neoplastic disease was just one of the many melting pots of life that forged my blood brother into person amazing. My blood brother chose his response to his illness. He controlled his attitude. He saw within his unwellness a opportunity to research his ain mortality and to go through on that apprehension to those he loved. He chose to confront decease with wonderment and wonder, rather than fearfulness and denial. And in so doing, he turned his last twelvemonth on Earth into a lesson of courageousness that I was privileged to share.

Reclaim your right to take your response to everything that haps to you. Reclaim your right to command your attitude, your ideas and your actions. Take personal duty for everything you say, or think, or do. Stop being limited by the habitual books of your cellular memory. The wonts of cellular memory be given to do people far too comfy with life as it is, and far too uncomfortable with facing the challenges of change. Learn to take personal duty for everything that haps to you.

What will taking personal duty make for you? Give you existent powerfulness and control for the first clip in your life, that's all. Give you a sense of being captain of your ain ship and in complaint of your ain journeying for a start.

When you take personal responsibility, you will come up to recognize that you are not just your thoughts. You are the mind of your thoughts. You are not just your actions. You are the 1 who takes your actions. You are not just your emotions. You are the 1 who undergoes and larns from your emotions. You are not just your responses. You are the Godhead of your responses. And when you get to undergo the sense of control that taking personal duty can give you, your mental attitude and self-esteem volition soar. You will suddenly see possibilities where before you saw walls...

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